Attention Parents: It’s OK to Ask For Help!

The roller coaster of parenting is exhausting.  One day you have so many parenting wins you feel like people should be consulting you about how to be a parent The very next day is like someone gave you a whole new set of children, and nothing seems to go right.  So, if we all acknowledge parenting is exhausting, why is it so hard to ask for help? 

The Joining Forces for Children team created a helpful tip sheet to make it easier to reach out for concrete support when you need it most! Click below to see how local parents are supporting one another.

 

Talking to Kids About Stressful Situations

One of the best things about the internet?  Resources at our fingertips.

One of the worst things about the internet?  Resources at our fingertips.

With so much information out there, how are we expected to really know what’s going to help our kids?  It helps to look for the common themes. For example, are you wondering how to talk to your kids about stressful situations, such as COVID-19?

Common themes most experts are recommending:

  1. Remain calm and reassuring: If you remain calm when they are not, they will eventually feel and mirror your calm.
  2. Make yourself available to talk: Disconnect from whatever task needs to be done and focus all of your attention on your child. Respond with love and assure them you are here for them no matter what. You might say, for example, “You are scared right now, and that is OK. We will get through this together.”
  3. Avoid blaming: Most of the time stressful situations are complicated. Blaming one person or group actually causes more anxiety for children. Instead, help your family focus on what they can control, like hand washing!
  4. Limit access to social media and TV: It’s OK to turn off the news for a little while. Constant focus on the crisis at hand increases everyone’s anxiety. Focus on making positive memories with your child while you take a break from social media and the news. Eventually, a conversation starter might be “what did you do during the COVID-19 crisis?”  Provide them with some cool memories to talk about in the future!
  5. Maintain a normal routine to the extent possible: Keep a regular schedule. Structure promotes a feeling of safety.
  6. Be honest and accurate: If kids don’t have the facts, they will often use their imagination to fill in the blanks. Avoid this by answering your child’s questions honestly. Remember, it’s OK not to have all the answers. Just reassure them that you love them and you will get through this together.

Helpful links:

 What to say when the news is scary:

https://www.npr.org/2019/04/24/716704917/when-the-news-is-scary-what-to-say-to-kids

Raising Kids Who Thrive:

 https://www.pbs.org/parents/thrive

Dayton Independent Schools_Seedlings Issue_ACEs and Building Resilience through Protective Factors

A local publication shared within the Dayton, KY community that shares helpful information to parents about ACEs and ways that can help build a bright future for their children.

For more information about this publication and additional information about training in trauma-informed care, please reach out to Brittney Howell, Director of Special Education/Early Childhood for Dayton Independent Schools at brittney.howell@dayton.kyschools.us

ACEs Connections: Ohio ACEs Initiatives and Actions

As knowledge about the science of adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) spreads, ACEs initiatives have launched in all 50 U.S. states and the District of Columbia. Hundreds of cross-sector collaboratives are educating and engaging organizations and policymakers about ACEs science. In turn, these organizations are implementing trauma–informed and resilience-building practices and policies based on ACEs science; many legislatures are passing resolutions and/or bills.

Joining Forces for Children, part of the Building Community Resilience initiative, spans counties in Ohio, Indiana, and Kentucky. More than 50 organizations and 200 members from school systems, social service agencies, medical providers, parenting support organizations, early childhood professionals, Home and visitation services participate in the collaborative, led by Cincinnati Children’s Hospital Medical Center.

Student Trauma Is Widespread. Schools Don’t Have to Go It Alone.

Community partnerships can help schools support students facing adversity. For example, in Cincinnati, efforts to bring trauma-informed practices to public schools began with principals who realized that many students bring the effects of childhood trauma into the classroom, which interfered with learning. Social-emotional learning techniques alone fell short in addressing students’ needs. In 2015, the school district partnered with a community initiative called Joining Forces for Children to tackle ACEs and give students access to a broad network of trauma-informed social and family services.

Sesame Street in Communities: Resilience

Sesame Street in Communities is here to support parents and caregivers as the foundations for children’s healthy development. Thoroughly researched and tested with families, these resources are proven to make a measurable difference for kids, and make your job as a parent a little bit easier.

Here you’ll find tons of multi-media tools in both English and Spanish designed for children from birth to six, a period when brains are developing rapidly and your nurturing interaction makes a lasting difference. The videos, activities, printables, and digital interactives feature our friendly, furry Muppets and help you playfully, meaningfully engage with kids during everyday moments. The site covers a wide range of topics, from school readiness to building healthy habits to tough issues such as divorce and hunger.

Sesame Street in Communities: Traumatic Experiences

Sesame Street in Communities is here to support parents and caregivers as the foundations for children’s healthy development. Thoroughly researched and tested with families, these resources are proven to make a measurable difference for kids, and make your job as a parent a little bit easier.

Here you’ll find tons of multi-media tools in both English and Spanish designed for children from birth to six, a period when brains are developing rapidly and your nurturing interaction makes a lasting difference. The videos, activities, printables, and digital interactives feature our friendly, furry Muppets and help you playfully, meaningfully engage with kids during everyday moments. The site covers a wide range of topics, from school readiness to building healthy habits to tough issues such as divorce and hunger.

Deer Park school sets up “safe haven” for students dealing with stress

Local Story featuring Deer Park Junior-Senior High School –
As more schools deal with bullying and violence, a local school comes up with a way to stop things from escalating before they start. Everything from the lighting to the sounds in a room at Deer Park Junior-Senior High School are calming. It’s called the “Recharge Room”.